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Welcome to my imperfect email.
As always, every week, we’ll send a question that will help you reflect on your own imperfect life, inspired by this week’s episode.
Uniting those who practice their bowling action down every hallway, and those who would rather watch paint dry than the Boxing Day Test is no small feat.
But this episode with Ellyse Perry? Consider it a sitter.*
Good innings,
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*I hope this makes sense.
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what is your relationship like with success?
We'd love to hear your answer. If you're in the mood to get vulnerable and share your writing, send it through.
It Starts With Trying
With Ellyse Perry
At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.
Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.
Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.
And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.
For this season of your life
Four philosophies for when your anxiety threatens to become bigger than the moment.
Love from Hugh.
Everything passes. (1:13:02 - 1:13:27).
This is from the Buddhist philosophy of impermanence. Great for handling big moments, not so great for holding onto the 2017 premiership.
Focus on meaning, not performance. (1:13:28 - 1:14:06).
From the Greek concept of eudaimonia. A good question to ask yourself is, what kind of person do you want to be in this moment?
Everyone is thinking about themselves. (1:14:32 - 1:15:53).
As writer Alain de Botton rightly identifies, everyone is embarrassed of their own insecurities. Trust us (or Alain); those people in the front row? They are not judging you, they are thinking about whether their new fringe is sitting right.
In the grand scheme of things. (1:15:54 - 1:17:44).
Also known as the funeral perspective, this can be performed through asking yourself “will the result of this matter at the end of my life?”
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what advice fundamentally changed the way you live your life?
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
This challenged my chronic people pleasing, and came from a book I was recommended to read called “Crucial Conversations,” and it was life changing.
Often we think when we have a problem with someone that we only have two options; ignore it and distance ourselves from them/the problem and hopefully it will get better, OR have a conversations with that person and it goes poorly and your friendship/relationship will be worse off or never the same again.
When in reality, if you take care when you have a high stakes conversation, it can lead to your relationship deepening and becoming more enjoyable. But for that to happen, you need to act. It is a saying that reminds me that if something is frustrating me, if I do nothing it will remain the same or get worse, so I must act if I want to see things get better. - Kelsey
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I was in my late thirties, a mum of two neuro-spicy kiddos, who at that time, were not accepted into their local school and a neuro-spicy school was their only option. It was a battle with the school system (Catholic, which we are not).
I was contemplating going back to finish my horticulture studies so I could work for myself as I had a feeling I would not be able to hold a ‘normal’ job working for others - not with the amount of early pick ups, school refusal etc. There were no school holiday programs for the neuro-spicy kids back then…
I was talking with my Mum about how exhausted I was, but also how I was thinking of going back to study, and Mum said, “the time is going to pass irrespectively of whether you do something productive with it or not, so you may as well,” and away I went. - Simone
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Change the way you see things and the things you see will change.
A lot easier said than done, but a great reminder that we can’t always control the things around us, but we can control our response and overall weight the circumstances have on us long-term. - Joe
Thank you so much for sharing your reflection with us, and with all of you! Always vulnerable responsibly.
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This will be our first ever LIVE podcast recording, where we will be answering YOUR questions.
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See you there!
WHO ARE YOU? with Dr Emily
This week on A Little More Imperfects, first, we gave you a very special code word. And then, for the other 90% of the episode, Dr Emily Musgrove answered your questions on identity.
We’re talking;
external validation
midlife
when you’re not who you were before, but not sure who you are now
who and what is your authentic self
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